{"id":431,"date":"2017-08-07T04:30:57","date_gmt":"2017-08-07T04:30:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/revolutionapparel.me\/?p=431"},"modified":"2024-05-01T23:09:51","modified_gmt":"2024-05-01T23:09:51","slug":"i-get-nervous-when-i-see-an-attractive-guy-woman-what-should-i-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/revolutionapparel.me\/index.php\/2017\/08\/07\/i-get-nervous-when-i-see-an-attractive-guy-woman-what-should-i-do\/","title":{"rendered":"I Get Nervous When I See an Attractive Guy\/Woman. What Should I Do?"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Jamie<\/p>\n

(Image: Universal Studios \/ Entertainment Weekly)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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“Hi Celes, I have been reading your blog since 2 years ago. Your tips are amazing and have helped me a lot. There is one problem about me that I haven’t read in any article on PE or any other site.<\/p>\n

This is shameful to admit. Whenever I see a handsome man, I feel that he should like me and fall in love with me. I feel terrible to think like that. I don’t do anything to impress the guy because I know it is wrong. I have a boyfriend and I want to live with him.<\/p>\n

I don’t want to get affected by handsome men. I don’t want such feelings to exist. What should I do?” \u2014 Kristi<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Kristi’s problem raises a very interesting question for all of us, which is:\u00a0Why do some of us feel nervous, or behave very differently, when we see handsome men and beautiful women?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Imagine this: You go to a party and you see someone good looking. You start to feel nervous, unlike yourself. You contemplate speaking to him\/her. For guys, maybe you get sweaty palms. For girls, maybe you play coy and hope that the guy comes over to talk to you.<\/p>\n

Why? Why does your behavior change based on the person’s looks? And it doesn’t have to be in a party setting too. It can be anywhere, at work, when meeting someone new, when going on a blind date, etc. Perhaps you see someone good looking and you get nervous, excited. In Kristi’s case, she’s anguished by these feelings and she doesn’t want them.<\/p>\n

The Truth about Beauty<\/h2>\n

To understand why such feelings get triggered,\u00a0we need to first understand the fundamental truth surrounding beauty<\/span>.<\/p>\n

The reality is that everyone is beautiful. Not more or less beautiful, but equally beautiful.<\/strong>\u00a0This is something that I’ve shared before\u00a0here<\/a>. You are beautiful in your own way. I am beautiful in my own way. We are all uniquely and equally beautiful,\u00a0not more or less than\u00a0others<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, this message runs counter to everything you learn in today’s world. The basic message surrounding beauty today is that some people are more beautiful than others, and some looks are more attractive than others. If you don’t look a certain way, you are deemed ugly and unattractive, and you should do everything you can to change your looks to fit a beauty mold. Why?<\/p>\n

A deep look into the history of beauty tells us that beauty ideals historically started as a way to separate the have’s and the have not’s. When\u00a0you trace\u00a0the evolution of beauty standards over time, you will see that<\/p>\n